• It’s no fun to pay attention to weekly income and expenses.
• It’s no fun to carve out the time needed to work on my business, not in it.

The truth is, your business will flourish the more you weave fun into it.  When we look forward to learning something new rather than thinking it will be overwhelmingly difficult, we create energy toward our own success.  When we hold our work lightly, it feels much less burdensome and hard.  We end up with a more positive energy toward the things we have to do.  We all know this, but when it comes to our work we sometimes tend to forget it.  We think we have to labor at our work, or keep it separate from our fun.

Dread has no place in your life as an entrepreneur.  You didn’t set yourself up to be the boss of you just to feel dread toward your work, did you?    One way to handle feeling too burdened or overwhelmed is to make sure you inject some fun and things you truly enjoy into your business.  Tiny pleasures or large ones, they all help you succeed in your work.

Here’s just a small example.  I’ve always loved the color turquoise, so to inject a little bit of fun into the work of updating one of my websites, I used it and asked Facebook friends what color to pair it with.  I ended up with a dynamic combo of my fav turquoise paired with peach.  I love it, and I had fun I had pulling it together.  (You can check out the result at suepainter.com.)  How fun it was to read the other day that turquoise has been named “color of the year.”

Often I encourage my clients to plan personal retreats to work out their stuck places and to work on their business planning.  These are fun despite being productive.  Go where you’ve been wanting to go, or return to a place you enjoy.  Not only does the prospect of a trip create a welcoming energy, you are so easily able to work on your business rather than in it, getting away from the day-to-day routine.  Go by yourself, or pair up with another entrepreneur who also wants to hammer out some work.  You can weave breaks into your day, walk on the beach, get a nice dinner, shop.  But for the most part, you are giving yourself uninterrupted time to invest in your business.  Don’t sabotage yourself by making this a family vacation, either.  It’s not – it’s for YOU.

You can also form a small Mastermind group with people you truly enjoy, and meet by phone or in person to help each other with business issues.  Make it fun – meet over a good bottle of wine, take a walk, whatever you enjoy.  For a while last year, I did this with another entrepreneur by meeting her to water walk and swim together.  We’d do that, then get into the warm therapy pool and stretch both our bodies and our views of our businesses.

Do you have staff or employees in your business?  In nice weather, try meeting outdoors with a picnic lunch.  Just think about ways to bring joy and pleasure into your endeavor.  You’ll benefit both in your spirit and your bottom line.  Think easy-peasy, not hard.  Think mastery, not failure.  Think simple steps, not big overwhelming project.  You didn’t put yourself in business to feel fearful, down or out.  You put yourself in business to serve others and create a world of work that meets your income and lifestyle wishes.  Fun will help you get there, even in small doses!

(c)  Sue Painter

Still, like everyone else, I have my limits.  So it was with a great deal of fear, dread, trepidation and tears that I let Bill drive me to a hospital early Monday morning, where in a few short hours my left knee would be amputated out of my leg, and if things went well a new knee would be put in.  There was a chance that my knee was so injured that a new knee would not work.  So I had to let the haze of anesthesia settled over me, not knowing what I would wake up to.  Honestly, this was one of the hardest things I’ve had to do in my life.

Both in business and personal life, there comes time when we need to tear things apart, blow things up, be destructive.  And the truth is that we do not know what the outcome will be at these times.  What we do know is that the current situation and the road we are on is not working.  Plain and simple, we need to stop.

I’ve put together a road map that will help you to know when it’s time to tear things apart, and how best to prepare for it.  Here are some of the rules of the road we are on that simply won’t take us where we want to go.

1. We tend to fear completely deconstructing things so much that we stay on the wrong road far too long.
2. The longer we stay on the wrong road, the more we lessen our chances of a good outcome once we’ve finally torn things up.
3. We spend too much time, energy, and resources trying to make the road we’ve been on work.  We make ridiculous accommodations that do not serve us, and we engage in more wishful and magical thinking.  Denial gains super-sized strength from our fears.
4. We assign fear to those around us, assuming they will dislike what will happen when things are torn completely apart, and using that as an excuse for keeping ourselves on the wrong road.

In both our personal and business worlds, however, we can ruin ourselves and our opportunities to have what we desire by refusing the “blow it up, tear it up, deconstruct it” path.  Our secret ambitions or dreams for ourselves languish.  The outward signs of “living wrong” can include anger, bitterness, depression, constant excuses, wishful thinking (if only), blame, totally buying in to beliefs and stories we tell ourselves about why we can’t do something, being cynical, jealousy, and dishonesty with ourselves and others.  Ugh!

No matter what “it” is, force yourself to have the curiosity and honesty to consider what might happen after deconstructing what you have right now.  Don’t just list the “bad” things you immediately think about.  List all the possibilities you can think of, too.  Energy follows thought, so keep yourself on the possibility side of the list as much as you can. Rule number one?  You don’t have enough foresight and knowledge to deconstruct something alone.  Get help, give it time and attention, and move through the steps without continuing to tell yourself how scary or wrong it is once you’ve made up your mind.

1. Consider the alternatives with at least three people.
2. Find the very best people to help you.
3. Make sure you like the way they approach things and their energy.
4. Enroll your significant others – friends, business partners, family members, support staff.
5. Ask these people to tell you their own fears about the deconstruction.  This helps clear the air and prevent sabotage.
6. Set up a timetable for when you will end the old and what all the steps are for the new.
7. Make it as easy as you can on yourself.  Clear the calendar of other demands.  Whatever else you do, hire it done or stop it for a few days.  Maybe you get someone to shop, cook, and clean for a few weeks so that’s totally off your mind.
8. Gather up your courage, quit listening to the “backtalk” from yourself and others, and  take one step.
9. Keep going through your steps with determination, even when you begin to doubt or run into an unexpected hurdle.
10. Remind yourself that what you have been doing DOES NOT WORK and that you are now creating a new order of things.  You are not reaching for perfection, you’re reaching toward a solution that will actually get you what you want.
11. Be honest to yourself and others when you have “doubt days” – get it out of yourself to prevent self-sabotage.
12. Once a day, look at the big picture.  Remind yourself that the road you have been on DOES NOT WORK.  Give yourself credit for each step along the way.
13. Work diligently on the new road. Don’t go back and wonder if you’ve done the right thing.  Whatever you are doing, it’s probably more right than the wrong thing you were doing.

As I write this, I’m in a rehab hospital learning how to use my new knee.  Yes, I did get one!  It’s been painful and hard, and it’s easy to fall into doubt that I’ll ever get the pain to stop or that I will be able to bend my knee very well.  Like everyone else who goes through this, I’ve had my few days of “hitting the wall” and wondering why in the world I ever did this to myself.  But my surgeon is expert at his craft and at reminding me where this can take me.  My teachers and friends remind me of the truth about how things were just a short week ago.  My new “knee friends” share every setback and success with me over meals and in the hallways.  And the hospital staff support me completely, from helping me get a shower to making sure my pain medications are delivered right on time.  I’m off the road that was getting me nowhere, and would have never gotten me where I want to go.  This road is “more right” than the road I was on.

No matter how big it is in your business or personal life, have the courage to say aloud “this road is over.”  You might find out that tearing something up is actually the way to create what you’ve always wanted.

(c) Sue Painter

Most of us are busy not only within our business, but also have roles in family and community, as well. As our business begins to take off, we have less of the quiet time we need to work “on” the business rather than “in” the business.   And, because we expend a high degree of energy, we need respite.  In fact, where we get our new ideas and renew our energy is often while we are on retreat.

My formula for fantastic business success is to regularly pull myself away from my business. This stretches me in several ways.

1. It forces me to train employees and trust them to run day-to-day operations while I am away.
2. It forces me to clear my calendar and budget for personal business retreat time.
3. It helps me keep my own ego out of the business and put my attention on the present and future possibilities.
4. It forces me to change my daily environment, literally getting a fresh perspective for myself and my business.

In fact, one mark of an entrepreneur who thinks too small is one who insists he cannot get away from his own business.  This a sure sign of overwhelm, fatigue, and over-control.   Here are five tips for how to do quarterly business retreats that will refuel you and your business.

1. Decide what is really nurturing for you, and select accordingly. Your body and spirit may need anything from physical exertion to sunshine.
2. Stay within your budget.  Retreat centers range from free (monasteries) to the ultimate luxurious destination.   Don’t stress yourself more by going into debt.
3. Plan far ahead.  Clear your calendar 3 to 4 months ahead of time.  This gives you plenty of time to make travel arrangements and a bit of time put away some money.   It also gives you something to look forward to, a time you know you’ll rest.
4. Put away the guilty feelings.  It is a gift to model self-care and nurturing to those you care for.
5. Enter and come back lightly.  Schedule a lighter day before you go and when you come back.  You’ll reap more benefits if you are not pressed to the last minute before you leave, and have a day to acclimate when you return.

Think about your work style and take what you need with you.  A few pads of paper, pencils or pens, a computer, a list of ideas you’ve had and need to assess, a list of problem areas you need to think clearly about should all be in your briefcase.  Because I work on computer, I will only go places where I can get Internet access.   Which, these days, is just about anywhere!

Make your retreat a combination of rest, daydreaming, good food, activity, and work time.  Your mind will clear and you will gain instant focus on things that have been bugging you as your mind, body, emotions, and spirit relax and renew.   Things that seem truly frustrating and unending will suddenly become clear.  You’ll find yourself making decisions you’ve wallowed on about and wondering why you thought it was so hard!

I recommend quarterly retreats, a week at a time.   At the least, get away for 4 days.  Stay away from e-mail and the phone as much as you can, and at the most check it only once a day.  Take a break from social media, too.  Your business issues will lessen and juicy new possibilities will flow.  You’ll get back home enthused and renewed, and that alone boosts your business success.

(c) Sue Painter

• You need to go on a personal retreat!
  

Yep, that’s right. One way to radically change your thoughts (which we know affect feelings, which in turn drive your actions, which then become results) is to give yourself a change of environment. Why?

• Chances are you are hanging around people who are not positively supporting you right now.
• It’s a good bet that you are tired of “thinking about it,” whatever the issue is.
• Your routine of daily life currently is not supporting your moving ahead. In other words, you are stuck in a rut.

Here’s the five-step action plan for you:

1. Go alone, you don’t want to have to serve anyone but yourself right now.
2. Pack your briefcase with the materials you need to work on the stuck place.
3. Take along at least one new book you’ve bought but have not read (it can be a business book or fiction, doesn’t matter.)
4. Give yourself a minimum of three days (that means four nights away, no cheating and taking a half day at either end for travel).
5. Set an intention to rest, recreate, and let your mind wander.
   

Now, go make a reservation someplace and get gone. If you are harboring negative and guilty thoughts, remind yourself that you are the shepherd of your business and your soul, and right now for whatever reason they both need attention. A friend of mine, Annie Wills, calls this “radical self care.” I call it a good reason for some extra time at my own favorite place, which is anywhere with an ocean view.

Say “recreate” with a slightly different emphasis and you’ll realize it is re-create. You need to re-create something in your work, and in yourself. That takes a little time out. No reason to feel guilty about that, is there?

Let me know where you go and what you got accomplished. Send a picture, even. I won’t be surprised at the positive changes, but you might be!

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