What is your ground of being? Where, within you, is there a solid place that gives you ground no matter what is going on around you? That calls you to calmness when others around you are not calm, that is the place inside you that takes in and responds to what goes on around you without being pulled off your center?
Having a certain knowledge of your own ground of being is what gives you agency to act in the world from your deepest values. When you know your ground of being you will sense quickly those times that you are not acting in harmony with that nature. Knowing your ground of being, developing it, means that you don’t react, don’t start or become part of drama, don’t respond to others from a fearful or hateful place.
Our deepest values form our ground of being. But when we are out of touch with our ground we don’t live from those values. For example, let’s say we go to church and hear that God is love and believe that we are faithful to that message. But then upon leaving church we see a homeless person begging and we react with disgust or fear or an inward desire to push that person away. Whoops! We are not living in our values. We are not standing in our ground of being.
It is the work of a lifetime to be willing to hold our ground of being in each moment – as we move through our day, as we respond to a loved one or a client or someone we don’t particularly like. Living in the ground of our being means living a conscious life, being willing to question one’s self rather than questioning another.
If I say that part of my ground of being is peace I cannot then let all the things that go on during a day pull me from that peace. I learn over time to hold that thread of peace even as I am dealing with poor customer service or an angry neighbor or someone who threatens to hurt me. That’s a tall order, right? It takes practice and a true commitment to living one’s values. It’s what Carl Jung called holding the tension of the opposites.
We cannot say we value love if we hate. We cannot say we value peace if we engage in war. We cannot say our customers are precious to us if we treat them badly. We cannot say we value a friend’s relationship if we stand her up or keep her waiting.
Knowing our ground of being takes thoughtfulness and introspection and discovery. It means sitting with what is scary or uncomfortable. It means self-responsibility, not constantly asking others for reassurance. It’s emotional maturity. It’s consciousness. And it brings to one’s life and business the certainty of riches.