Here's the secret. When you are feeling a lack of confidence about your work, your life, or your relationships there is one main reason 90% of the time. Here it is — You have gotten stuck because you have put off taking an action you know you need to take. It really is as simple as that! To create more confidence for yourself take an action!
When we don't do what we need to do to move forward in business or in life we get stuck. Our energy can't release into action. The more we spend our time and energy questioning ourselves instead of moving on, the more we start to feel ill at ease and unconfident. And, of course, once we feel ill at ease and unconfident we are less likely to take action. It's a vicious cycle.
I call this the “circle of despair” because the longer we go round and round in it, the more doubt and despair we feel. Instead of creating more confidence for ourselves we curl up and feel worse.There are many reasons we don't take action, and most of them require some help to get past. Here are some common ones:
- Fear of raising your prices
- Doubts about finishing up a website or a brochure because you're not quite sure what to put in it
- Indecision over letting staff or contract workers go even though you know they aren't helping your business
- Unwillingness to stand firm with a family member who doesn't offer support or sabotages your work.
Taking action (despite lack of perfection) is one sure-fire way to create more confidence, so much that others around you feel it and respond to you – they want what you've got! Building your confidence = building your business. And taking action = building your confidence.
My advise? Don't get stuck in the endless question “what should i do?” Set a time limit for yourself, take a deep breath, and take action. It doesn't have to be perfect. Action will help build your confidence more than anything else you do. Action is the opposite of procrastination. As T Harv Eker pointed out when he shared Robert Ringer's quote, “The cost of procrastination is generally far greater than the cost of making mistakes.”