Why Do Entrepreneurs Take On Too Much?
All my life I've been pushing hard and not giving much thought to self-care strategies. Almost every teacher and mentor I've had describes me as an “overachiever.” My physical therapist says I'm “tenacious.” Like most entrepreneurs I have these traits.
- I'm interested in a lot of things
- I love to learn
- I can see opportunity almost everywhere
- I don't like to feel I've missed an opportunity
Growing up, self-care strategies weren't part of what I was taught. I was taught to study hard, work hard, practice hard, play hard.
I think some of us (many entrepreneurs) just want to experience life, grab it up and enjoy it, learn from every moment. It never has mattered to me if I was tired. I have a great force of will, and I can bend energy. I trusted myself that I could prevail.
When Is It Time to Quit Pushing?
Entrepreneurs can learn to discern when doing too much is good and when it's not. Yes, we need to push and stretch ourselves when a rare opportunity arises. We don't need to use “I'm tired” as an excuse. But we do need to realize that one of the best tools in our toolbox are our self-care strategies. And most of us are weak in that area.
This means that sometimes we need to consciously say no to some of our opportunities, and give ourselves respite time.
- Sometimes we need to catch up on backend of business activities
- Sometimes we need to re-enter from a trip
- Sometimes we need to pay attention to household details
- Sometimes we need good rest and sleep
When we got back from a month on the road, I could feel that I needed to be strategic in re-entry. Here's a video about self-care strategies and why I'm pushing a little less these days.
Here's the key take-away that I have come to understand about self-care. Using self-care strategies and keeping daily silent, meditative time is every bit as critical to my success as any business opportunity I have.
Take my self-care challenge for entrepreneurs.
Most of the people I work with forego adequate self-care. They sacrifice themselves too much. It's not smart. It doesn't help us create and maintain the business we love so much. Sometimes we need to set a boundary for ourself, and sometimes we need to set boundaries with others.
Here are 4 challenges for you and your entrepreneurial friends.
- Treat your one body well. Give it adequate rest and nutrition.
- Give yourself quiet time to calm and train the mind and emotions.
- Be self-responsible and require those around you to also be self-responsible.
- Be kind to yourself first, and then to others.
While I may sigh a little, I say no to far more opportunities than I use to. I'm wiser now. I push myself less. Perhaps part of that is age, but I'd like to think that most of it is hard-earned wisdom.
Do you have a way to walk the fine line between pursuing opportunities and giving yourself good self-care? Please share it below.